Dear Time, Maybe it’s middle-age. Maybe it’s the chaotic pace of life, or maybe it’s just me, but I find myself angry with you. You loom over me, always reminding me I’ll never finish all that needs to be done. I’d like to play fair, but how can I when you care nothing for me? No matter… Continue reading My Unresolved Anger with Time
It’s easy to love people who love me. I feel so good inside when I’m with those people. Elated and strong; I’m on top of the world when I find someone who returns my love with more love. And then there is everyone else. The not-so-nice, not-so-friendly, not-so-happy, porcupine people who are just very difficult… Continue reading Loving Those Porcupine People
Last weekend I attended a women’s conference for women in ministry. We took a personality style test that revealed how others perceive you. After twenty-eight questions, I came away with the title of “The Victor” which as I already know fits this type-A, reformed control freak and perfectionist to a tee. The problem started when… Continue reading Big Girls Don’t Cry?
He looked at me with wide eyes trying hard to make sense of my words. “Really, I mean it. Hasn’t anyone ever told you that you were made to be a rescuer and make this world a better place? Try being a hero, instead of a killer. You were made to be a hero!” He… Continue reading Finding Our Feelers in a “Me” World and Teaching Our Children to Care
She bounces when she walks. It is an outward sign of her inward joy. And she has so much of it. I don’t know how it happened. How it happened that she is so joyful is a mystery because she started life with so little. Almost ten years ago now, they handed her to me. … Continue reading All I Learned About Life From My 4th Grader as She Heads Off to School
I have parented my adopted child for over nine years. I will never be the same. It is the hardest thing I have ever done. On the days I am frustrated, it is good for me to go back and remember how far we have come. I only wish I had known… Continue reading Mom’s Top Ten Survival Tips for Raising Your Child with Attachment Issues
I seem to have knack for weird parenting encounters. Last week I listened to a mother drone on and on about why her son was a problem. This kid is a typical pre-adolescent boy; creative…lazy…and as his mother explained, a trouble-maker. He would fall into the “not EVER fun to be with” camp. Now Mom… Continue reading Brat Talk: Great Expectations and Eliminating all of Mama’s Excuses
I resist labels. I don’t like the boxes that words put us in. There is one label, though, that I need to use today. As a parent for nine years of a child who has suffered from multiple broken attachments, let me introduce you to RAD, or Reactive Attachment Disorder. I have made friends with… Continue reading 7 Confessions of a RAD (Not Bad) Mom
Last night I dreamed about my grandmother. Not so unusual perhaps, but it was one of those dreams that woke me with a start and a great deal of EMOTION. She died over 20 years ago and I woke up with an ache missing her and wishing I could somehow have an hour just to… Continue reading Throwing Off Yesterday
